When I entered the fourth trimester with our firstborn, I wish I would’ve slowed down a bit. We were at the end of a complete home renovation and closing process… and with a work-from-home career, I simply wasn’t sure how to balance it all.
I experienced many firsts when becoming a mom, and felt feelings and emotions that I’ve never felt before in my life.
Our bodies go through so much physical change during pregnancy, birth, and raising a child. But also equally as important are the mental changes we endure.
It is important to not only feel heard and loved but also stay proactive in your own health— internal and external—as you feel captivated by the needs of others.
It took trial and error, bouts of postpartum anxiety (PPA) and postpartum depression (PPD), and re-finding my happiness to really settle in and focus on who I was.
I had a whole new perspective on life since becoming a mother. And the biggest shift I saw was in my mindset and habits. My priorities were less and simpler because my heart and intention were more. Honestly, I wanted to cut the fluff, get rid of the bullshit, and focus on what mattered most—which was my family, myself, and our life.
And I realized I could simplify my life in order to live my life a little more!
Done are the days you think you have to be everything to everyone and do everything all the time, mama.
Ways To Develop A Growth Mindset
What is a growth mindset? A growth mindset is a belief that intelligence and capability can be learned and are improvable. Whereas a fixed mindset is the belief that there can’t be learned improvements to intelligence and personality traits.
A clinical study on growth mindset notes that it can have powerful effects on the motivation and even academic performance of students.¹
So, if you’re looking for some good ways to develop a growth mindset, then here are my top tips to get you going!
1. See Challenges As Opportunities
Reframe your challenges as opportunities. You can’t avoid challenges and hurdles—they’re a natural part of life. But you can reframe and change the way you think and feel about them. As opposed to letting them attack your self-esteem, view them as a chance to learn and grow. A chance to build your resilience and ability to problem-solve.
2. Learn From Each Day
Each and every day can provide a nugget of wisdom. What did you learn from today? What did your successes teach you? And what did your perceived failures teach you?
3. Stop Seeking Approval And Validation
If you’re always being controlled and motivated by the approval and validation of others then you’re going to regularly be disappointed. As opposed to being driven by the act of doing, you’re being driven for the reward of others. And the truth is, that itch can rarely be scratched. Instead of doing things with the view that others are responsible for building your self-esteem, take control and build your own.
If you’d like more self-love tips for moms, then be sure to check out my blog post here!
4. Celebrate Your Successes
Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in what you’re not doing, or your future goals. But it’s important to stop and smell the roses too. Life is about the journey, but it’s also about the wins— no matter how big or small!
What have you achieved? And what have you overcome? Honor yourself for those wins!
If you’re looking for some great ways to boost self-esteem then check out my blog post here.
5. Focus On Actions And Habits
It’s easy to focus on goals and results, but the truth is the goals and results are reached through actions and habits. If you focus on building good habits and consistent actions, you’ll reach your goals in no time.
A clinical journal on healthy habits notes that you can support self-esteem and self-confidence by building one small habit at a time.²
6. Remember The Power Of ‘Yet’
The word ‘yet’ reminds you, that you haven’t reached your goals ‘yet’. And it provides some positive motivation because even though you may not have fully accomplished your goals, it honors your journey and the road to achieving them—which is just as important!
7. Mindfulness
Mindfulness is great for mental health, but it’s also vital for a growth mindset. You’re able to spot unhelpful thought patterns in the present moment (as they arise) to improve your personal development.
A growth mindset is all about the learning process, and the belief that you can spot fear, a negative thought, or a challenge and turn it into something that’s helpful for your personal growth.
8. Develop Resilience
Resilience, grit, and hard work are required for a growth mindset—because life isn’t always easy. With resilience and grit, you’re able to overcome adversity, fear, and challenges.
9. Don’t Neglect Your Relationships
A great area for personal development is within relationships, whether that’s with friends, family members, or spouses. Developing meaningful relationships with others can not only bring you a lot of joy and happiness but can help you to develop emotional intelligence too.
10. Let Go Of Perfectionism
Perfectionism is a killer of a growth mindset because often perfection prevents action and the learning process which leads to personal development. Build your trust muscle, and remember that each mistake is actually a benefit to your personal growth because you’ve learned a valuable new skill, improved your ability, or overcome fear.
Conclusion
What are your favorite ways to nurture your growth mindset? Let me know in the comments!
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